Shadow work
How to transcend structures, beliefs and emotions that limit your involvement in life as authenticity itself?
Love is the only answer.
If you don't treat yourself lovingly, you won't get far.
Neither by not taking full responsibility for your choices!
. Honest consciousness is your way.
Self / Itseys / Autenttisuus
As I write about the Primary Relationship I refer to the relationship with Self I rather speak of Relationship than of something that is so easily interpreted as some separate self. The Self is not separate, but because it can be discussed as a concept, its reality might be lost obscured to the rational individual. The quality and nature of Authentic Selfhood is distinct in its way of relating with the world. This curious relatedness is to only way in the greatest of mysteries, as well as the only prerequisite to successful shadow work. As I now discuss therapy directed at the personal level can we proceed with a narrowed understanding of the Self, and the doors it opens, because the Relationship teaches of Itself. You need no words for it. But you may need tips in how to get to the unutterable. We go deeper in the transpersonal at the end of this page. We can then settle for an understanding of the Self as a conscious and coherent state of balance among all aspects of being.
By shadow work is meant the exploration of the area in which are buried our traumas, suppressed matters and energies and emotions bound to them. Those things are more or less powerful, depending on how powerful energy is involved in the experiences. What is typical here is that these things have been othered, separated - put in an inner mental asylum, where they are handled as special cases - isolated from all the rest. While this is the requirement for the development of a shadow, it is also its only problem. Inclusion and acceptance, then, are the tools that open all the knots! You don't need to know all that much, actually! You can be curious. You can remain open, compassionate and amenable to the system, to which, and from which you at times either peacefully or fiercely interact with yourself and surrounding reality.
Inner work is enhanced by an environment and life style that support safety and trust, for the parts abandoned and cast aside in shadows experience fear, despair and mistrust toward the person you live, as do they toward life and other people. You have been treated badly, and you have treated yourself badly, nevertheless mainly to the best of your ability. These parts have not been heard, not seen, and linger therefore in the shadows - waiting for their release in wholeness, equality and harmony of your inner Kingdom, That you are. What an immense gratitude to be one whole self, and not foreign to oneself!! Healing originates only from here. It flows from the whole to its parts. And the whole expands always, and forever.
The gravitational force between fragments and the whole is inescapable.
It is but the will of one that manipulates this fateful journey.
This is why parts surface, and it is good.
It is just.
In fact resisting the process is a true feat of strength!
One could stop fighting already, right?
The fear of looking inside
Who are you?
The way you experience the answer to that question influences significantly to your willingness to look within you - in the depths of your mind, into the core of your self, at life experiences and the immense amount of learning material in life, that you have both embraced and consistently avoided not see, but to which you have reacted anyway, and based on which you have made choices in your life. If you have avoided not facing reality, what has stopped you?
Kun harhaminä katsoo sisälle, ei pimeydelle näy pohjaa. Ei loppua kaaokselle, ei merkityksettömille silloille asioiden välillä. Sinussa operoi kaksi ajattelijaa. Toinen on luontainen, harmonian periaate, toinen kaaoksen – vain koska sitä ei ole vielä tuotu Valoon. Valolla tarkoitan kokonaisuutta, ehyttä ja ristiriidatonta tilaa. Varjo puolestaan on kaikkea sitä, mitä ei ole osattu sovittaa osaksi sitä kaikkea. Sen merkitys on hämärtynyt, minkä vuoksi mieli torjuu sitä.
When the false self looks within is there no bottom to the sight of darkness. No end for chaos, not for meaningless bridges of connection between things. In you operate two thinkers. The other the natural principle of harmony, the other of chaos - only because it is yet to be brought to Light. The state of light is a healing space, one of peace and safety. Constant stress, urgency, alertness and insecurity keep the psyche and the body in a state of tension. It can make you quite aware of certain things, but work on deeper levels requires space, safety, and safe personal relationship and the choice to live authentically. A positive change of attitude toward oneself is a prerequisite, for if one sees him/herself as lousy. powerless, evil, engraved by guilt, shameful - in other word maybe - internally ugly, in the hopelessness of the unchanging, why would one even desire to look within? There is truly nothing new to be found?! And it doesn't even matter. At most, more evil and misery is to be expected, "that I already am”. So speaks the shadow, and the decision of the mind to not see. Näin puhuu torjuttu osa itsestä. Pelko, joka ’pimeyden’ kohtaamiseen liittyy, on loppujen lopuksi seurausta vain identiteettiongelmasta ja/eli vääristyneistä uskomuksista elämää ja itseä kohtaan, uskomuksista, jotka on oikeutettu oikein tai väärin tulkituilla elämänkokemuksilla. Pimeys juontuu ratkaisemattomasta ongelmasta ja jännitteestä, ja kuvastaa hyvin tarkasti mielentilaa, joka on eksynyt nykytodellisuudesta. Se, mille ei ole olemassa ratkaisua, olisi absoluuttista pimeyttä. Ehkäpä lopullisessa mielessä, pimeys on vain harhaa, sillä jos kaikki on mahdollista, on se, minkä mieli tuomitsee ja leimaa itsensä ulkopuolelle, varjostettu tietoisuuden ulkopuolelle, ja siten siitä tulee mustaa. Se, mikä ei seuraa mitään varteenotettavaa logiikkaa on kaaosta, ja on oikeutetusti pimeyttä. Tärkeää on kuitenkin tiedostaa, että mielen päätös olla näkemättä koristelee pelottavaksi kaikki kuvat ja kokemukset, vähättelemättä ollenkaan kokemusten kamaluutta. Todellisen Itsesi ei kuitenkaan tarvitse puolustautua ollenkaan. Pelko ei kumpua sieltä, vaan vain siitä, mikä ei ole ikuista, ja täten erillistä.
I am not the person of my story.
but I have been responsible for each choice I made.
I have willed thus.
In the context of trauma the choices I refer to are those made of an obscured state discernment. Those relate to wounds in relationship with life, that is, also with self and other-selves. Wounds speak to you of darkness, although behind the dark veil only Light, Love and Peace are found, because some intentions of us resist that reality. In some cases it is good so, because parts desperate for love resist any one sort of story about Light, Love and Peace, either as an identity or an experience. Its reality is no story, but the ones talking about it - who are they? Stories themselves? Nevertheless, authenticity does not condemn stories, but neither does it resonate with illusions. Resistance of authenticity derives from the so called The first wound - the first and deepest cut, by which one has separated oneself from one's True Self - that has had no effect in reality whatsoever. For while trauma understands itself as changeless, in despair, terveys sinussa loistaa muuttumattomassa luottamuksessaan. Sen on vain annettava ilmentyä. Se on täydellisen yksinkertaista. Rauhakin on sitä vakaampi, mitä tietoisemmin pystyt pysymään itsessäsi sillä matkalla, jolla varjot tulevat kääntymään sinua vastaan, ja sinä valitset uudelleen. Miksi enää häpäistä itseään sisäisesti?
That which is real in you has always been and will forever be
Perfect, whole, One
Viattomuus monikokonaisuudessaan!
Kun uskot, luotat, ja hyväksyt, että sinun perimmäinen todellisuutesi on puhdas ja virheistä vapaa, riippumatta siitä, millaisia kauheuksia olet elämässäsi tehnyt tai kokenut, tai miten kuinka tahansa kamalasti mielesi sinua simputtaa, voit kenties sallia tietoisuutesi laskeutua kuuntelemaan Itsesi lempeää sointia. Muistaessasi sen, on sinun helpompi katsoa pimeydessä piileskelleitä ihmiselämän ihanuus- ja kauheuskokemuksia myötätuntoisesti ja armollisesti. Enää ei tarvitse piilotella todellisuudelta, ei itseltään, not in freedom, but embrace as yourself all your parts and shards - for your reality, your innate love, only extends and extends in every cell of your persona. That's why the earlier strategy to reject must be replaced with acceptance and inclusion.
Abandons not one, leaves not behind, but each does it heal as a coherent whole.
You are Light, Love and Peace.
If you are confused, you cannot navigate a labyrinth!
A word of wisdom still before the dark of the jungle
Sisäinen perfektionisti, eli arvottomuus, eli tarkoituksettomuus, näkee varjotyöskentelyn keinona tavoittaa sisäinen ja/tai ulkoinen moitteettomuus. Se on tarpeetonta. Korkeimmillaan se edustaa tarvetta, joka kumpuaa todellisen tarkoituksellisuuden puutteesta elämässä. Ihmiselämä on rajallinen, ja rajallisuus on epätäydellisyyttä. Se on täysi kulmikkaassa konstellaatiossaan. Täydellisyyttä ei löydetä täältä, vaan se on jo olemassa – juuri nyt, luomakunnan sellaisuutena tässä hetkessä, ja äärettömässä todellisuuden luonteessa, joka lepää täydellisessä järjestyksessään tässä ja nyt. Täydellisyys yksilöllisellä tasolla sen sijaan määrittyy sen mukaan, mitä ihminen on luomassa ja tavoittelemassa. Tarkoitus ja päämäärä määrittävät keinotekoiset käsitteet oikein ja väärin. Eikä kyse ole edes oikeasta ja väärästä – vain siitä, palveeleeko mikä tahansa asia omaa polkua vai ei. Ykseys ja/eli johdonmukaisuus on oman polun tunnusmerkki. Jos sisäinen työ auttaa siinä, se on mitä merkityksellisintä. The same wisdom applies to both inner and outer changes.
What needs to change in one's life so that the new would be possible?
…
There is no other means more effective to find out than to embark on the journey toward change.
Respond to the call of life!
The past will resist.
Kysyy vielä…kerran ja ikuisesti
"Will you take the ship?"
Is that what you want?
And the strong gives tears
And does the Fire dry!
Mestari lepää ilman draamaa.
Polunpäät ja triggerit
The mind is constantly communicating. One of these channels is projection. When the mind projects things to people that they might not inherently embody at all, so is it about either distraction or making the individual aware of his/her subconscious. Messages are received also in dreams, and the whole of life does in fact appear to be responding to some of our perhaps as of yet unknown desires/calls - bringing to us things, perhaps repeatedly, that enable the recognition of what kind of conscious or unconscious motives operate in us. If you have ever heard of the Law of Attraction, viittaan nyt siihen verrattavaan ilmiöön. Jos ihminen osaa olla rehellinen itselleen, tunnistaa hän kyllä, miten elämä puhuu hänelle. Silloin kyseessä on jokin varteenotettava asia, mutta ihminen voi myös kaikessa viisaudessaan yksinkertaisesti harhailla menemään, mikä on loppujen lopuksi intentionaalista itsensä sumuttamista. Jos jokin tietty asia toistuu, on sitä jo korkea aika tarkastella myötätuntoisessa uteliaisuudessa. Mutta sillä ei nyt ole niin väliä, ajatteleeko, että universumi vastaa ”tilauksiin” paljastaen herkkäluontoisia tai vankkoja salaisuuksia, toiveita, unelmia sekä sabotaasiyrityksiä, vai että sattumankaupalla syntyneet tilanteet yksinkertaisesti tarjoavat mielellesi mahdollisuuden heijastaa sisältönsä maailmaan, ihmisiin ja asioihin. Joka tapauksessa, tuo sisältö kulkee kanssasi nyt, ja sinä olet sen kanssa tekemisissä.
Polunpää on löydetty, kun tietoinen mieli on saapunut johonkin risteyskohtaan. Se voi olla sisäinen tai ulkoinen konflikti, mutta joka tapauksessa ihminen triggeröityy, kun ulkoinen ja sisäinen todellisuus eivät kohtaa. Täten tuodaan näkyväksi valinnan paikka. Mahdollisesti se peilaa sen, että on olemassa kaksi keskenään ristiriitaista päätöstä, eikä päätöstä ole vielä tähän mennessä muutettu. Sinun is tehtävä päätös, koska muuten mieli tulee kysymään ikuisesti, miten suhtaudut tilanteisiin. Ja jos haluat rauhaa, on sinun tehtävä päätös, joka mahdollistaa ymmärrystä, sillä ymmärrys pyytää tietoa, ja kuvastaa rauhan periaatteita. Hämmennyksen tilassa ei kuitenkaan ole olemassa mitään tiettyä suuntaa – on vain tietynlainen määrittämätön tai ehkä myös tunnistettavissakin oleva tunne tai kaavamaisuus vain – jokin, joka pysäyttää tarkastelemaan tarkemmin, tai pakenemaan kahta kauheammin. A choice is being asked.A trail end has been found when the conscious mind has arrived at some crossroads. The crossroads is a conflict. The mind makes visible two opposed decisions, wherein the decision has thus far not yet been changed. Therefore, however, there exists no particular direction - there is but some level of confusion and an indeterminable or maybe even distinguishable feeling or an orderliness only - something that makes one attend and look closer, or run away double time! What I mean is that the conscious mind seems to follow a trail until a certain point, but cannot advance further in its exploration. In these points one's experience is filled with some overwhelming emotion or a stronger or a weaker sense of intuition convincing with a whisper that there be something significant awaiting in the unknown dark. Thank yourself if you find in yourself a brave trust to go in the darkness of your subconscious. Immense life and insightfulness await to be witnessed! However, I cannot but emphasize the importance of having safe accompaniment when diving in the depths, if you still experience a relatively weak emotional support from within yourself.
If you don't treat yourself nicely, you won't get far. And even if you do, are you strong enough (in your compassion) to make your way past your defenses alone?
Maybe you are!
Emotions
Trail ends can be recognised (often, maybe not always, also) through feelings. With feelings I of course mean emotions that embody qualities that are most often described as negative. However, positive emotions can also hide pain beneath them - Since peace is the greatest, peaceless joy is superficial, and weak. Only a layer. Peace is whole, and so joy emanating from peace is silent.
But why are those emotions so unpleasant? I would claim that at least partly because resisting them is horrible. Yet of course the other factor of the unpleasantness is the pain one is yet to resolve. The more persistent the feeling the harder does the psyche protect you. From what does it protect you? Well, that's for you to find out. That's were the trail begins, and one doesn't get far by knowing. Only by asking questions and accepting. The emotion speaks to you. Your whole system tells you a constant story. It reveals its whole life to you. And the gift is great as you receive it!
Until a certain point it might be helpful if you can reason the causes of your emotional turmoil as illusions. Let's clarify a bit here. The parts of you that offer feelings in your consciousness obviously disagree on the verdict - the causes are real! It may be that the emotions alarm you of something real. Real danger exists for man but maybe still, in the majority of cases, fear and a healthy ability to discern get intermingled through the influence of stories/life experiences of the past. Your Ultimate Reality does not fear. It is incapable of fear. Fear is always due to confusion, although fear can inform of real concerns. Reasoning may offer you both distance and a sense of safety in knowing that the message the feeling is conveying might not be appropriate, but the annulment of it through reasoning does not help you communicate with your experiences. These fragments, or parts, that carry traumatic burden, can offer you very useful information. They teach you about boundaries, love, self-expression, justice, compassion and gracefulness for example - through life experiences in which the aforementioned qualities have been lacking. But before most, as the wounds heal, space is made free for you to be your authentic self, as is now the energy invested in defense made available for something more constructive.
Communication is the key on the journey into the subconscious and the requirement for healing/becoming whole. It is a journey that ends to what has always been. By communication I now mean that you recognise and confess to yourself and(or others what's going on in you. What are you thinking? What are you feeling? What are you experiencing? Communication should be allowing and compassionate, curious and respectful, non-afraid and courageous. Why would you pity yourself? In this way the layers of emotion begin to fade and it is possible to access the core of the experience. Revisiting traumatic life-experiences can be rather painful but never as painful as the feeling would have you believe. It can be said that the more intensive the emotion the greater the freedom that awaits on the other side of "death". If you fall in love with this kind of death you have already won the game! You love yourself. You want to be whole. Being left alone is most painful but as you visit your subconscious you are not alone - firstly you are not the person that got traumatised but rather you observe something in you that needs your help (check, Self, later). As you visit an experience in a supported state of being - either in the love and acceptance emanating from yourself or of some other - it will be possible for you to break free from the hold of trauma and return the psyche in present reality. If you are in a safe space nothing can harm you, because your inner system most concerned of your well-being will look after you. That is the Love that you are in the center of your stronghold.
But first you must be able to communicate the trust to the trauma.
It is impossible to lie.
So does it occur only when one is internally ready
and/or the outer circumstances safe enough.
Projection
I for one notice that when I'm not myself - in my center - my mind begins to colour the world and people with carious stories. When I am not present in reality I have stepped into illusion, and I will see them everywhere. I am not whole, and therefore my schizophrenia sticks to anything I gaze upon. I have lost sight of reality. I hear tones in people voices that are not there. I interpret things in negative - or in overtly positive light. In my loneliness I think things of people that are an utter fallacy. And I see my needs and fears showcased on people. Why does the mind do this? Why does a human do this? I don't think it be by any means a sickness. It results from fragmentation.
Regarding needs it may be that if the mind offers images of the fulfillment of needs, and it makes you feel uncomfortable, you may need to examine your relationship with your needs. If your needs are not fulfilled, and you cannot access their meaning, the mind will come up with some other means for their saturation. Various perversions come into being through this, when a part of self wants and another denies. Your transpersonality , nonetheless, has no needs. Only the human, that you are creating through your higher aspect of being.
Each is only looking for Him/Herself.
The highest possible expression of oneself.
It is divine, transpersonal, spiritual,
a true corker!
In its peaceful meaning.
For nothing is lacking.
Projection can however depict a story about who is the culprit for your selflessness/separation/misery. Only reactive choices are guilty of this. Each only search themselves, but when the shadow speaks, it reflects itself on others - this is done to distract from the simple observation that you are thinking your thoughts. In zoning out in the dream of his subconscious, she might not realise he is not herself. And so is meeting the subconscious rendered impossible. The shadow makes itself visible in the world, but only to one's individual consciousness, by rendering the surrounding world as the canvas for its painting. The minds can then being to make sense of its content. Projection is therefore not some wrong or evil thing, when seen this way. It is simply, untrue, and a non-creative state of mind. How to differentiate between ego's drivel and the theater emanating from one's subconscious? What then is the need for projection? What is its function? The greatest problem of projection is that it does not communicate with others, but only with its own content. Thus it can entertain its illusions. Thus it intends to separate and cast out reality - by projecting unto the world a reality, that it would itself like to be looking at. When the mind projects past experiences unto situations it may discreetly be asking: Who are you? Should we proceed as before? Very clearly does the mind reveal you the state it is in: I know not who I am. Only trauma speaks this way - in other words, a life lived too long denying one's own will/wholeness. The life of people orientating to situations through projection could be described as inner theater on a shared stage. That learned from the past is brought into the present, but what of it is truly there? And what of it does one truly want to bring into the show? As already mentioned, projection can relate to unfulfilled needs, or chronic fears that one entertains in his/her mind. A direct cure for projection is authentic communication, for really meeting the separated mind brings it back to shared reality. Projection leads to many mental illnesses, in those cases, where shame of personal thought creates an unbearable inner conflict, which is attempted to hide. This is successfully treated by means of open dialogue , where health is not defined but rather is engaged with the "patient", a non-judgmental, respectful and open dialogue.
It is the same.
Both deny the present free from the past.
Reality.
The function of projection therefore is bipolar: on the other it makes visible, but on the other it also obscures and keeps separate. Projection is therefore also a diversion mechanism, as is very evidently for example in Judge's case. The Judge begins his duty from projected thoughts, possible saying them aloud.
Parts and fragments
Protectors and protectees
Managers
"Parts that try to run a system in ways that minimize the (possibility of) activation of exiles ."
Exiles
"Parts that have been sequestered within a system for their own protection or for the protection of the system from them."
Firefighters
"Parts that go into action after the exiles have been activated in order to calm the exiles or distract the system from them (dissociation)."
Managers
Boss's voice, but the heart of whom?
Healthy managers are important parts because they care about one's well-being and quality of life. Organizers keep life in motion. They remind you of a healthy diet, exercise, social engagements, appearance, hobbies, work and various responsibilities that one might have in her life or in others' lives. Managers are therefore on a mission. They are functional parts and can be very clever. The problem with managers comes to being when they are running one's life, the individual himself being unable to stop and calm down, nor make changes in her ways of conduct, but rather continues his life in an active jailhouse. Constant doing ensures a constant distraction from deeper levels of being and presence, that would allow exiles the chance to surface. Who is living your life?
Examples of active manager strategies:
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- Pleasing others/serving others
- How else could I avoid the pain of abandonment than by buying earning others' acceptance?
- In reality I hate that show but I'm too afraid to be me
- I cannot express my needs directly, so I hope, that by doing things right they will be fulfilled
- How else could I avoid the pain of abandonment than by buying earning others' acceptance?
- Saviour complex
- as a child I was dependent on my parents and siblings. I still live a survival struggle through all people that need help. Because the same way I will never make it alone, so will they not survive without me.
- It has some truth, but what I mean is the unreality mixed in this through emotions and needs.
- as a child I was dependent on my parents and siblings. I still live a survival struggle through all people that need help. Because the same way I will never make it alone, so will they not survive without me.
- Perfectionist/inner critic/judge
- Through the perfection of my outer life I will reclaim love for myself.
- I cannot love what I do because love awaits only at the finish line.
- and so do I have the perfect make-up and the cleanest car
- or then I have turned to some other substituting self-image, the vanity of which I worship in my ideology. See. Spiritualizer
- my body must be perfect, despite the most probable fact that it will wither in this life anyway
- My thinking needs to be perfectly consistent,
- for otherwise I am nothing
- I cannot accept less than what I once achieved and was able to do
- Through the perfection of my outer life I will reclaim love for myself.
- Control
- I cannot deal with uncertainty, nor the unknown. I don't trust life nor people.
- If I let go, everything will fall apart! Because I am alone.
- Sabotage/pessimism
- When I fail of my own will, at least I will not be truly disappointed.
- Neither do I need to confess my true needs and dreams, nor do something for them.
- I can in fact just let all opportunity slip by me
- Overachieving / constant doing / urgency
- I can do anything. The way I feel doesn't matter. I have learned to survive. And I will survive also this!
- until my first burnout. But that was only a missassessment.
- now I am overdoing spiritual growth!
- I have already built a waterproof therapy-me!
- now I am overdoing spiritual growth!
- until my first burnout. But that was only a missassessment.
- I can do anything. The way I feel doesn't matter. I have learned to survive. And I will survive also this!
- Compulsive nurturing/caring
- As I take care of others, perhaps I will also be attended at some point!
- I learned it as a child already!
- In fact, I don't know who I am without my role!
- I learned it as a child already!
- As I take care of others, perhaps I will also be attended at some point!
- Pleasing others/serving others
The jailhouse, however, extends to passivity also. A manager encouraging a powerless and inactive life attempts to shield, for instance, from shame, fear of unknown for example then, when one is about to make bigger changes in one's life. Rather not give any meaning to life, because otherwise the unpredictability of life hurts even more. Novelties are a threat to protectors, although there are protectors that constantly seek new things and experiences in particular to distract one from that which stays and could grow. I am thinking of various cases of personal relationships... If one experiences great mistrust towards oneself, and life in general, enables passivity a satisfying dissatisfaction, in its most powerful expression probably in one's mind, because as one does not distract oneself in constant activity, remains but the mind where to carry out the mission. This is why the idle is far from being passive - for his/her mind can be an exceptionally fast-paced place. However, to suffocate the thinking machinery, apathy can be deployed! Which ever means of addiction or action suppressing energy will do! Malaise keeps one still! Or on a constant run!
Examples of passive ways of conduct:
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- Being silent, hiding out
- as I keep quiet, can I hide from interaction, that is actually taking place within me all the time.
- Emotional coldness
- I feel nothing. I am ignorant of how I feel. I choose lifelessness, because my pain is deafening.
- Anxiety
- I still live the awkward memories of unconsciousness and uncertainty in me as I face the unknown. I was alone then. I dare not to proceed. (I wish somebody would help me <3 )
- Procrastination
- because I do not value my life, I can simply let it pass by me
- spiritualizer: time is forever. What's the hurry?
- because I do not value my life, I can simply let it pass by me
- Overthinking
- I believe that I can prepare for the unknown future by thinking excessively. It doesn't make me happy but at least I don't have to be surprised, because I will only advance based on what I know for absolutely certain.
- Accuser
- I may not engage as long as I blame others. When they change, I am happy. I will nevertheless not change myself.
- that is my true misery - for I do not believe that change is possible without my own intervention.
- and how true it is: no other can change what one can only change him/herself
- that is my true misery - for I do not believe that change is possible without my own intervention.
- I may not engage as long as I blame others. When they change, I am happy. I will nevertheless not change myself.
- Being silent, hiding out
The world provides a vast selection of means for passive ways orienting to life. The modern man doesn't need to search for mental entertainment only within his/her own mind, but can fill empty space with a constant flood of information! The phone has it all! Television yet! Internet is building up all the time! There is social media, Netflix, literature, video games, all manner of purposeless personal relationships, there is a lot of the lot to systematically escape one's mind with - to go chase some dreams and avoid an authentic experience. Of course none of it is wrong. Life is to be lived as one can. The ingenious comes up with a way how the new relationship with life and with oneself can be realised also by updating prior manager strategies! If the equation is impossible, it will collapse on itself eventually, however. One's choices reflect in any case his inner world.
Spiritualizer - the holiest of managers
Protective mechanisms can develop. They may get additions and extensions in their repertoire of strategies. Their function does not change, but their content and form may get ever more embellished and virtuous channels for expression. Spiritualizer has its own separate article!
Firefighters
While the manager, the inner PT, keeps the show rolling, constantly, is there a special scene reserved for the firefighters in trauma management. Pain and agony that firefighters extinguish is crippling. It may under no circumstances surface. And so do the firefighters step in only whence there is fire and smoke! Their function is important and they need to be taken seriously. Examples of extinguishing attempts are i.e.
- getting small
- I avoid conflict by withdrawing myself aside
- my body cannot escape
- but I can
- my body cannot escape
- closing oneself in
- obmutescence
- isolation
- pulling back
- emotional numbness/discompassion
- I avoid conflict by withdrawing myself aside
- escaping situations
- I don't deal with conflict
- self-sabotage
- the anguish and pain I experience is overwhelming
- only by eliminating myself from the whole can the pain end
- the anguish and pain I experience is overwhelming
- surrogate pain
- cutting oneself / self hurt
- my emotional pain is overwhelming, but physical pain distracts me from it
- allowing/asking for sexual/ other physical violence and abuse
- I deserve this
- (I am powerless, worthless and I don't matter)
- I deserve this
- cutting oneself / self hurt
- uncontrolled anger
- murderer/killing
- I am absolutely disappointed in other people and the world. Nobody sees my pain and can understand me.
- I meet my pain in relation to certain people, and I cannot deal with it.
- so shall I solve the problem by killing him/them
- I meet my pain in relation to certain people, and I cannot deal with it.
- I am absolutely disappointed in other people and the world. Nobody sees my pain and can understand me.
- I cannot tolerate conflict X - I shall withdraw into suicide
- violence, aggression and chronic self-defense
- I intend to scare the situation or the people away that threaten the exiles my aggression is protecting
- murderer/killing
- acting
- humour, dramatising, sarcasm, mockery
- I recognised how painful a subject it was. I can't deal with it. So I shall water it down with my laughter.
- compassion laughs differently
- I recognised how painful a subject it was. I can't deal with it. So I shall water it down with my laughter.
- I experience anguish. I am dramatising it to come up with some layer.
- I cannot express things as they are, so I hide my hate in sarcasm. I sounds so smart then - although in my core I know that my choice is downright stupid.
- humour, dramatising, sarcasm, mockery
- distraction/dissociation
- daydreaming
- I experience despair. I satisfy my dreams in my imagination.
- comatosing (I don't mean actual coma)
- I can also stop - also in my mind
- getting stuck on social media
- the flood of information fills up my consciousness with everything but myself
- until I notice projecting myself unto the things I see
- the flood of information fills up my consciousness with everything but myself
- getting stuck in front of the tv
- I will still watch the next three episodes before falling asleep in front of the box.
- analysis, rationale, witting out, changing the subject, fantasy
- by analysing I can distance myself from my authentic experience
- by reasoning I can explain things as I want them, not experiencing anything.
- check also spiritualizer
- by escaping into fantasy I can continue to deny the reality of things
- daydreaming
- consuming/shopping
- I delight myself with cheaper or more expensive vanity
- I get a moment's adrenaline rush! (Therein is its vanity)
- I delight myself with cheaper or more expensive vanity
- comfort eating - overeating
- eating disorders in general
- alcohol, smoking, other substance related addictive behaviour
- unbalanced phenomena of one's sexual life
- one can seek from sex not only pleasure but also safety and the sense of acceptance
- as a reaction to emotional pain
- cheating, disinclination
- one can seek from sex not only pleasure but also safety and the sense of acceptance
- obsessiveness
- getting small
Exiles
Human life is a strange struggle for survival. The helpless newborn is born in an unpredictable reality, either alive, crippled or dead. The love, connection and fear experienced in early childhood reflect in their own colours later on in life. If the wounds have not been healed after, needs that emotional bleeding made to seize one way or another. This is the function of the managers and firefighters. Do you see how the psyche still thinks it is living the past?
Then there was no space, and neither is there now!
Then there was no safety, and so is there now!
This is my reality
In these words can we clearly see a mind clearly stuck in the past. As are the exiles, in plight. Nasty one that in which one creates to himself more space-less, unsafe and dissatisfying life (manager strategies) so that there would be not space nor safety that the exiles desperately need.
Exiles are those parts, cast aside from your totality of being, that are dedicated to carrying unresolved burden. They shall wait, until the end of time. One cannot get rid of them, because they are part of the whole. In accepting this your totality smiles. Yet at the same time the door has been opened for the brave light-bearers of darkness.
Each has created these parts himself. You are responsible of yours. How do you treat those that have been left behind amidst an inner or outer war? You can never escape your responsibility in what you create. Therefore the pain derives from separation itself. It is a wound in relationship to Self, life and other humans. It is a wound that leads to the obscuring of loving reality. Is spiritual, philosophical and psychological literature that phenomenon is addressed as separation. Separation still is an illusion. The totality of life occurs in a shared space, and so can you deny it any more you could split your self into independent parts - not without the cost of wholeness. Despite this one can make separation a reality in order to avoid the pain that he has experienced multiple times in being disappointed in love, other people, and maybe even the creator of the universe? This is the Primordial Would.
Rage may turn blind when facing injustice,
and bitter is the grief for that which one loves, yet has had to part with.
The goodness of Life.
The reality of Love.
Of Truth loved above all else.
Understandably, therefore, it may be easier to deny the Reality of Love and its ultimate meaning, but it leads nowhere. It is Law. That is how Reality is created. The protectors of the psyche fight against a natural self-healing principle by distracting and creating again and anew the necessary distance to the separated, so to prevent trauma burden from pressuring up (sometimes in actual points in the body). But that burden can be given away. Only you can give it away. And that is why, as the very first step, the burden/information/energy is received. Only then can you truly be aided.
And because you are Love, only then may you help yourself.
Love is the answer.
as your (non)Identity.
The Transpersonal Dimension
Beyond death
Fateful step
You True Self has no need for defense, yet it does defend life. Attack has an even lesser point. Neither do you in any way fear death - nor shadow figures. What would scare the immortal and the real? Life appreciates itself also after the so called death. Death is for some a peaceful transition, and tinted by images of fear and false idols for others. One should therefore not depict any stories of it, for only stories generate tension, that is interpreted as fear. But sometimes encountering pain may feel like death. I personally like death as a symbol for this spiritual-alchemical process, in which an individual enters the Unknown, and returns to know himself and the totality of existence in its multidimensionality ever more deeply and broadly. The less fear one has, the more she sees, experiences and knows. Being Life Itself, loving It as Herself, can he see All of it! The birthright of each! Congratulations! In relinquishing burden is great energy, space and creative potential released in one's system, and so life feels as if new. The old pain body has deceased. It has been rejuvenated with life from your Self. One has returned to Communion. Into Relationship. Written in the books of the truly living.
The trap of gazing within
Shadow work deals only with the mortal. that is, the ego, although even the ego is immortal, if it is understood as the intention creating separation - will is choice. Inner work is made a trap of meaningless perfectionism and self-importance, if it does not include some higher purpose of why it is conducted in the first place. The ego is a means, not an end in and of itself. It turns into a trap when that created construct bounces emotions, thoughts and beliefs within its very own confines. The ego is a closed system - yet it can be taught. But who makes the new rules? This process has temporary significance. In its fallacy, the construct leads to no absolute meaning. Nonetheless is relating to its content not without significance. It may be the only functioning means to transcends the structure, and step into the Peace of your True Self. You are not the human that you think you are, for there lives something a lot greater and wiser within you.
Only that in you seeks healing,
which is not healthy.
Only that in you reaches for the light,
which resides not there.
Only that in you strives to work on shadows,
which is the shadow itself.
would you listen to that?
The problem does not exist
How could one believe it?
Grace - the fateful choice
There exists a point of no return. That point is a seeming paradox, for fate cannot be escaped. The influence of fateful love must therefore always exert its influence. "The Shadow Worker" grows tired of mining out the particulars of the jewelry of his ego. It has not lead anywhere. Why? He has already learned the way to relate to its content, and has learned it multiple numerous times - she may have interpreted again and again that, to which attention has been placed - yet nothing has changed...
He has understood being something quite else.
Grace comes due to fate, for in grace does one reclaim oneself. Man - by which I mean the ego, that is a persistent identity issue - can not kill himself. Only Love slays illusions. Gracefully. There is no fight, when one returns herself back to reality. There are two selves, of which the other is chosen as the master, which it already is - the creator. Ego is terrified of this, for literally - its kingdom ends there in its entirety. Grace relates to this mortal outcry. It is the last step. The last choice resolving the identity problem.
It has been realised that life is your most unbelievable dream, you the hero in it
and the whole world but a stage.
What is reality?
I am X
When that X is left out, the fateful choice between dreams and reality is made. Former life was merely a constellation of wishful dreams - vain entertainment for a me, that does not exist. Yet does Love permit all dreams but it is by fate that reality corrects the hierarchy of values. This is a spiritual journey independent of scenery, but not of content.
Your Being is God
Creative Infinity
Eternal Communion
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